Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from pain and treasure the most precious gift I have-life itself.
It is crucial to be aware that no matter what you have in your life, the very fact that you are here and making plans means that you can change whatever it is that you do not like.
Life always has its shares of ups and downs; the secret is learning how to move on from the painful things that happen in life. To be able to push yourself forward from them, to get to a happier more positive stage, instead of remaining trapped in the negative. To be able to do that successfully we need to have goals, a purpose, something that helps pull us forward when we feel stuck. It could simply be a determination to do better for yourself or for those you love or it could be because you have a passion about a particular thing which drives and motivates you. When deciding on a life goals or aims a good strategy is to make it as real as possible. Imagine what it will feel like when you have achieved it. Write down how you will recognize when you have reached it? Will it be a bigger house, more money in the bank or something more personal such as finding a life partner? Whatever it is that you wish for, in order to make it a reality, you must have a clear idea of what it is before you set about trying to obtain it. The purpose behind being so specific is that it gives you a very clear picture and by writing all the small details down you engage your brain in being able to start looking for ways to help you to achieve it.
It is also important to remember to be flexible in how you go about finding the path to achieve your dream. In simple terms you may have seen a house with a picket fence in your vision for your future and instead find one with a walled garden. Does it matter that much? As you learn and grow so might your dream and vision. Do not be afraid to adapt your goals. Often what we wish for when we are young changes ,as we mature our values and belief systems may change. Being aware of any changes in what you now consider to be important and incorporate these changes into your goal in order to fully get what you want.
The most important part in being able to achieve your goals is to be bothered about it. You must care about the outcome and be
able to recognize that your own actions and not the actions of others are the keys to achieving what you are aiming for. No one else is going to put the effort in for you; no one else is going to change your life until you start making the effort yourself. Others may then help you when they see how committed you are to achieving your dream but not before you lead the way.Recognizing this enables you to cope with whatever life flings at you, allowing you to take responsibility, adapt and change whatever way you need to stay on track and stay positive.