Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.
Henry Ford.
It is impossible to get it right every time and yet we all seem to fear failure so much that it stops us trying to reach for more. We can restrict ourselves to living what we may consider to be a mundane and boring life, whilst secretly yearning for something else. Yet never try to find a way to change it and achieve our dreams through fear of failure.
This fear is a learned experience. Babies are not born to be frightened to try to learn to walk. It doesn’t matter how many times they fall down they just get up and try again. Does a baby thing “Oh dear tried that walking thing a few times haven’t quite got the hang of it yet ,so think I will give up in case people laugh at me? Of course not they simply keep trying until they get it right. At some point as we grow we learn to become fearful of other peoples ridicule or derision of our efforts and then allow that to begin to limit us.” How sad it that? There is a world of infinite opportunities and experiences out there for us if we just have the desire and the confidence to go try them out and see what we are good at and enjoy. We could change our whole way of living if we just lose the fear of failing.
Does it matter if we fail a few times if we learn from each experience and allow it to teach us to help get it right? Often we learn better by first making a mistake. If we can learn how not to do something then at the same time we have actually learned how to do it, it just depends how you look back at it. We just have to be able to look at everything as an experience rather than a success or a failure. If we consider each thing we try in life this way we can learn from them all and grow stronger. The new learnings obtained will help move us forward in life in a way that suits us and makes us happier and more fulfilled.
Every journey as they say begins with one small step. If you have the desire to achieve something start by looking at how you would go about it. Look up what you would need to be able to do to reach your dreams. Then draw up a plan. It really doesn’t matter how long it takes you to get there only that you begin the journey. If you have been trying to follow a plan and feel frustrated or held back by failure look at what has gone wrong. Stand back and view it as if you are watching a movie about it. Knowing what you know now, how would you do it differently the next time? By adopting this detached way of analyzing events you are enabling yourself to learn and then act on the new learnings. This builds up bit by bit your abilities and confidence and help you to achieve more. Just try it and see how well it will work for you.