“Change isn’t easy…. changing the way you live means changing what you believe about life. That’s hard…When we make our own misery, we sometimes cling to it even when we want so bad to change because the misery is something we know. The misery is comfortable.”
Dean Koontz
It is unfortunately very true that sometimes we cling to the familiar far longer than we should even when it is causing us pain to do so. We can hang on to failing relationships, bad habits and destructive attitudes because of fear and that very fear can deplete us of the energy we require to change things around .Creating a sort of double edged sword for us to hurt ourselves with. Often what then happens is that we need to hit what we feel is rock bottom before we decide that enough is enough and find the necessary incentive and energy required to let go of that old negative behaviour and belief system which has been pulling us down. It doesn’t need to be that way though. We can choose at any time to say “enough” and take positive action to let go of our self-destructive behaviour and relationships.
It is a bit like wearing old comfortable clothes that we know are well past their best. Sometimes in order to make ourselves wear the new clothes and “break them in “we need to dump the old ones in the bin. If we keep them, even in the back of the cupboard, we will occasionally take them out and put them back on. Likewise when we decide that we are going to adopt a more constructive and positive approach to dealing with our lives we must make sure that we discard completely our old bad habits in order to create new better ones. That means that we change our habits by changing our attitude. This has to be done consciously at first and daily we must remind ourselves of why we want and need to change.
To assist us maintain daily changes we can use post it notes around the place to have visual reminders and in addition to those, using positive daily affirmations can also be very helpful. To begin with it will feel strange but if we focus on the positive things that we wish to bring in to our lives it will make it easier for us to change. Persistence and perseverance are the keys to building a new and more positive,constructive attitude to living life to the full. If you are consistent in your desire to bring about a new you and continue with your new positive daily habits ,it won’t take long before you will feel as comfortable with the “new “you as you did with the old.